Sunday, March 30, 2008
On this trip, for the first time, we could actually visualize Eli coming home. Being together as a family felt more real than ever. It is a wonderful feeling to have, though bittersweet when we have to say goodbye. On the way to Guatemala, we watched the movie "Martian Child" on the plane. It is a beautiful movie about adoption and finding that place of love, acceptance, and belonging. By the end of the movie, Jason and I were both crying, blubbering messes but it was the perfect beginning for an amazing week with our sweet pea. There are two quotes from the movie that stood out to me (may not be exact wording):
"We reached out into the universe and found one another. I don't know how and I don't know why, but we did and that is where we belong."
"Never, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever give up."
This past week with Eli was incredible in so many ways. It reinforced to us that everything we have been through on our journey to parenthood led us directly to little pea, all in perfect timing. And, the delays we are experiencing in bringing him home have provided us life changing opportunities. This realization does not take away the pain, anxiety, and longing but it helps us to focus on all of the wonderful blessings we have received in the midst of waiting. When I reflect back on everything we have experienced in the the past year, pain and anxiety is not the first thing I feel. I feel joy, gratitude, and overwhelming love. I will continue to feel anxious until our sweet pea comes home, but I will not allow that to erase the incredible love and joy he has brought into our lives. We smiled from ear to ear and laughed A LOT the whole week with Eli. I am still laughing out loud just thinking of Eli's funnies!! Here is one sweet moment. Oh, the simple things that make children laugh!! Enjoy.
Saturday, March 29, 2008
Wednesday, March 26, 2008
We had such an amazing trip and have lots to share, including Eli's first haircut!! This boy has a serious head of hair! It grows straight up. I have a feeling we will be spending a lot of money on haircuts and hair product!! His foster mother said she tried to cut it, but he would not sit still. So, we took him to the salon at the Marriott for a little trim.
Sunday, March 23, 2008
Ahhhhh, daddy love. Jason and Eli started this adorable game while waiting for another procession. Eli would lay his head on Jason's chest and they would both say "ahhhhhhh." This went on over and over. Oh, soooo sweet!!!
"Wow!! I am king of the world!!!" Eli also enjoyed using Jason's head as a drum!
Standing up at the big boy picnic table.
Eli practicing his wave with mommy.
Having fun with the activity table!!
Check out Kimberly's blog for some more pics!!!
Saturday, March 22, 2008
Eli has been doing very well despite some separation anxiety. He is cleary very attached to his foster mother and that is wonderful. He is so much fun and such a sweet boy.
Okay, gotta go. Antigua is waiting for us! ;)
In the meantime, here are a few pics to tide you over!
Thursday, March 13, 2008
Look what arrived the day I wrote that. A box full of love and hope from my blogger pal, Nicole. Included was her Guatemalan cell phone she so generously gave to us to use on our next trip, a gift card for some "retail therapy," and the essentials for surviving an embassy appointment - snacks! Thank you, Nicole!!!!!!!
My brother and Chris came over on Sunday to install Eli's window valance. Isn't it incredible? We LOVE it!!!
Not only did we come home to a box of hope from Nicole, we also came home to a little surprise in Eli's room...the finished crib skirt!!!! My brother snuck in while we work! Oh, we just love, love, love it!! The nursery is close to being finished. Now, that is FULL of love and hope!!!
And, the preparations for our next trip have begun....yes, this is what we have to pack and this is not all of it. It is a sickness, I know. Retail therapy really does help. Hee hee!!! What better way to restore our hope than to love on our sweet pea. Oh, we can't wait!!!
Our attorney reported today that we are still in PGN. I have been fighting the urge to call PGN all week, mainly because I was too scared to hear bad news! Well, I finally broke down and called today to find out exactly where we are in the review process. Of course, I couldn't get through. I was hung up on a couple of times, was told to call back, and when I did call back I was told that Laura (the famous PGN receptionist) went home sick. Maybe tomorrow.
Monday, March 10, 2008
Can you believe it? Little pea is 11 months old!! Wow! Only a few more days, sweet pea.....
We really don't have anything to report. Still waiting...tick tock...tick tock...sigh...
I haven't posted much over the last week or so because, well, I really don't have much to say! Same old, same old...tired of waiting...aching for Eli to come home...anxious we may get kicked out again...blah, blah, blah. I am tired of "wow, I don't know how you guys do it," "why is it taking so long," "why can't you just go down and get him," and my favorite. "hang in there." I know people have the greatest intentions and, at this point, nobody even knows what to say anymore. I think we are all out of words. But, that's okay. No words are needed. We know we are surrounded by love and hope. We know on the days that we feel very low, many of you are holding up that hope for us.
But, honestly, I am really tired of myself right now!!! Can I take a vacation from myself?? I have been in such a fog the last couple of weeks. Numb is not really the right word, but it is the only one that comes to mind. I certainly don't feel "numb," yet I feel like I am just going through the motions of everyday life right now, very disconnected. My newest skill, or more like a symptom, is the ability to completely tune out everything that is going on around me with the flip of a switch. There could be 20 people in my office talking all at once and there are times I would not even notice. Pretty scary, eh? I think I am just feeling so worn out by this process, that I am turning into a zombie. I know it will pass and it is simply a coping method, but I am so ready to be DONE. There certainly is the possibility of being kicked out of PGN again and that thought makes me nauseous. But, there is nothing we can do at this point except wait and hold on tight to hope. I know this time waiting will pale in comparison to a lifetime with Eli. I know that one of these days, I will be begging for time to slow down. But, right now, this time waiting for Eli feels like an eternity!
Thursday, March 6, 2008
I called PGN on Monday and at that time we were with the 2nd reviewer. Ya, we've been there before. Let's hope this time we are approved. Come on. It's time. Please set us FREEEEEEE!!!